| Yes, Tamie, it is a very touchy subject. One day on a ferry journey I met a young guy. We chatted, and he was very interested in China comparing foreign countries, which he have never been to (possibly like you, Tamie ?) He said a lot of the bad things in China. Mostly of the government. We never spoke of our respective girlfriend, wife or whatsoever. Just before entering the harbour, we stood on the deck and enjoyed the sunshine, and he said "I don't like that chinese women marries foreign guys. The girls are so bad, they only marry for money." I think he saw me as a competitor, maybe he couldn't get himself a good girlfriend, and in this way got his bad thoughts out and blamed the foreigners for that. (Maybe.....) My chinese wife Xiuying (yes, I am married to a chinese and ve are both very happy about it) have had some "experiences" of chinese men talking bad to us, when she walks along the street with me. She hates that chinese men talks bad of me. "These guys have absolutely no style", she says. Chinese women very seldom talks in that way in public. In fact, most women says good things of me. My chinese is not so bad that I can't hear what these men are talking about. Please have that in mind next time (if you are a chinese) and talks bad things to a foreigner. Some might listen and get really angry of your talks, so beware. Many foreigners are strong. Some chinese have an attitude to think of themselves as the ONLY available option for the opposite sex, just like you, Tamie. By the way, do your husband have the same ībad attitude as you ? China has been opening up for many years, and the chinese now knows a little more of the outside world now. Perhaps you should think of WHY chinese in some cases prefer foreigners instead of chinese. Perhaps because foreigners has far more knowledge of the rest of the world outside China, due to the free press, and the holiday travels to other countries which most foreigners do quite often. That makes them more interesting in the chinese' eyes. And marrying a foreigner opens many new doors for you outside China. Worth to think about, when someone is just fed up by all the control, the rules and the whole system here. There are many couples of foreigners and chinese. Most are foreign men marrying a chinese, but the other way is seen in many cases. Perhaps one day your husband will leave you for a foreign woman ! I can see that the divorce rate in Shanghai is sky rocketing now. So be careful. Fact : Love shows it's face in many ways. Fact : Many chinese women marry old rich chinese men, or rich chinese popstars, just because of their money. So let them. Can even be a way out of hopeless poverty and obligations. Old fat foreigners don't last long, he will die happy. And when he dies, the wife get's her reward. More money than her whole family can earn in three lives. Everybody is happy ! What's wrong about that ? Work hard on that attitude of yours, Tamie. You have a lot of understanding of the world to catch up on. The world is not simply black and white. It is dark grey and light grey. Never pure black and white. This is 2007. |
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