| This topic is very interesting from am america viewpoint. The fact is chinese woman in many cities not just shanghai date foreigners. In the USA we would consider it racist to say people should only date people from their own race. This is what you really are saying. The reverse is true why are foreigners dating chinese girls? I am an American with a Chinese girlfriend. We enjoy the differences in culture and yes the fact that we have a more worldly view is important. You will find in every country a certain percentage of the population likes cross cultural marriages. Not just in China. Money is not the big issue. There are many wealthy chinese men now and I know chinese girls with foreigners who have not much money. The fact is when you have so many people you will have a certain percentage that wants to experience different things. The biggest thing I have heard in Shanghai is that wealthy Chinese men treat women badly. They have too many girlfriends and switch easily so some women prefer western men. There are always bad men no matter from where. So yes some foreign men treat woman badly as well. Again its not a cultural statement. The vast majority of chinese women even in shanghai marry chinese men. I dont think this is an issue. Also, many women marry for money all over the world not just in shanghai. Look at Anna Nicole Smith. China is very focused on money and material possessions this is a society issue on the whole. So its not unusual for women to seek successful men its the same everywhere. If a man marries a woman who is just crazy for money then he has either chosen badly or the situation works for them. Money is an attraction as much as looks, culture etc. Again women stay with men for different reasons. In the USA young women go with much older men. China is not unusual. Some girls value security and need a father figure for them to feel happy. I would imagine this is a very small number of actual marriages. We are becoming a global village and very dependent on each other. It is a very old and ignorant viewpoint to say races should stay separate. This is what starts wars and maintains hostility. Every horror inflicted by man against man comes from this basic viewpoint that we are not the same and that other cultures should be purged. Cross cultural relationships bring understanding of different cultures and for those of us a much more expanded viewpoint. I do not consider myself bad because I am not with an American girl. I feel comfortable with the cultures and would not want to be with anyone else. People of the same culture and religion get divorced all the time. There is no recipe for happiness. Its just two people deciding there future. |
Shanghainese Girl Marrying Foreigners