| Marrying a Chinese girl, even if shes not from Shanghai .. I am a person whom very much loves a chinese girl. I note (dancingdots) in this blog stating a lass from China married a man from Nebraska USA ... He states as follows (he can not satisfy her material demand) What is the demand in material marraige for her? I believe that love alone should be the key to her answer .. Perhaps the guy is a jurk, who knows. However in the case of my love for my friend in Xi'an China whom has spent much time in this country, Australia ... with me. I am finding these two things ... I am being discriminated by her mother mostly in that because I have been married before and have a daugter that I am not considered a good mate. The other of course is a monetary issue ... Her being only child and not being a son is expected to provide much for her parents. Hey nothing wrong with that in most respects ... However as a strong and independant man I would only be to happy to provide for the families needs. The discrimination issue seems that mother would have no face if daughter married me ... Where does one turn when a family discriminates with cultural issues... Good enough to send daughter to this country for education and to earn a better income, then pressures her to suppress her feelings of her heart ... Then I find I am being victimised now even by her heart because she has to live basically a double identity. I am a very nice person and if the family could bother to know me as the daughter has said .. The mother threatens the daughter psychologically ... I'm lost for the right answers ... Sure I wish to go there and meet the parents ... It seems though when one is being pressured there by family, that because of the cultural upbringing, dictatorship ... political differences ... Do as I say child ... Perhaps I should stand in a square and be shot down by someone ... issues which are not found on internet in China ... I dare not even send a political history email to my love. Simply because it would likely be detramental to her health, as she has plainly said we are being watched and even our business emails are censored and it seems many know what we do ... Help ... What I do know is that my lady would never starve and would always be warm and loved. |