| Jianshuo, I like the way you end your post with "The best is yet to come." It's not easy to stay positive when the going gets tough, and I admire your positive attitude. I myself have been going through a similar experience since I got married. More responsibilities, more commitments. The difference is I got married when I was 32 years old, which is still considered a bit old for the Singaporean society. Physically, I'm already starting to feel tired more easily, and so that adds to my stress as well. But that's also where we learn how to take care of our body better so we can fulfil our responsibilities. Being in this stage of life is also challenging because I feel the pull between going for a great career versus having children. If I were a man, I could consider any job even if it involves traveling. But men don't get pregnant (yet). Women, in this way, lose out in the marketplace. It's something that can't be solved yet, and the only way is to choose one or the other. Family is definitely the most important, but sometimes my heart aches when I feel limited in my career due to birth-planning. This kind of dilemma is really new to me. Now I understand why it's not easy (sometimes impossible) for a woman to have both her family as well as her career. Many times, in order to have one, you need to sacrifice the other. And those who sacrifice their families usually regret at the end... |
Toughest Time for Me and Wendy