| Nothing wrong with dating westerns. I have been married for 12 years to a Shanghainese girl. I know several other younger American males that would also put forth the same effort I have if they found a nice Chinese girl to spend their life with. BD, I think you have to learn which men are willing to put forth that effort. Although rare, they exist, just as do the young beautiful and truly committed Chinese girls that are not trying to screw over they foreigner. The biggest problem is very basic. Chinese people in general don't trust people outside their own nuclear family. It's very hard to have a real relationship with someone when then don't trust you. Westerners on the other hand have grown up in a culture of trust. Because of this very large gap at such a basic level it can take years to develop a solid relationship between a Westerner and a Chinese person. Most are not willing to do what it takes - years of hard work and life-long commitment. Sound too serious? Well it is, and that's why most of the types of relationships you're talking about eventually fail. |
Shanghainese Girl Marrying Foreigners