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Chinese Middle Name for Erik's Baby Just arrived at the Wang blog.. Me: Father of two daughters adopted from China. Let me add some facts, and clear up some misinformation. All (legal) adoptions of Chinese orphans are controled in Beijing. Until just recently, (last few years) there were far more girls abandoned than at this time. Abandonment of girls in China is not mostly the product of the one-child policy, in fact, it has been going on for millenia, in the form of girl infantcide, and is driven by long standing traditions in the social structure---patriarical extended family---strong throught out China, stronger in the rural agrarian communiies (2/3rds. of China). In the last ten years or so, girls that would have been abandoned (many if not most, abandoned girl babies were left to die), now have monetary value in a black market that sells babies, internally in China into families that are looking for a "back up" female for their sons in communities that are heavily out-numbered with boys to girls---typically about 120 boys to 100 girls. These girls, adopted unofficially, will never gain a hukou under current PRC law, so they are often relegated to a life of servitude, without education, although they might later marry into the family as well-----and for all you Chinese cultural history buffs, this process might sound strangely familiar with the way it was done before the Communist takeover, and Mao declared that girls and women: "Hold up the sky". Wonton expresses a politically correct 'story-line' familiar to all who adopt internationally. Its absurd on its face---when did these people, critical of international adoption become stakeholders in the make-up of my nuclear family? In order, here are the stakeholders to the orphans in China: The person that finds the abandoned child and takes it to the police, who then take it to the orphanage, then the local officials who try to dertermine the child's parents, then the provincial officials who log the child's information with Beijing, then the official in Beijing who reviews adoptive parent qualifications (foreign AND domectic) to determine the best placement for the child, and then the US State Department who insures the child was actually abandoned, not sold or traded, and finally the ultimate stakeholders---the adoptive parents who are going to commit to a lifetime of love, expense and inclusion for the child as an equal in the family. To give you an example of how much of a politically correct affectation it is for those who oppose international adoption on cultural grounds, consider this: They would far rather see the children continue to languish in the orphanage than have a true childhood. And they arn't about to step up to the plate to do anything for these children as an alternative. Here in Portland, we have a liberal weekly called "Willamette Week" in this week's issue is an ad for a non-profit fund raiser called: "Dining for Darfur" ---posh restaurants doing their part, and well heeled liberals getting a nice, feel good, feed---socially, spirtually, and with full stomachs--- (I about lost my lunch when I read it) Since China opened to Americans for adoption, many hundreds of Chinese girls have been adopted here in Portland Oregon, and because there is a strong social connection between families, I know personally hundreds of the family stories. Cultural adjustment is not a problem. My daughters are learning both cultures (my wife is Chinese, and they are in Chinese immersion, as are many of the adopted), but even those that arn't, they are overwhelingly--- living very well adjusted childhoods in American culture, and because their parents were older (China's adoption policy) --- their home situations are overwhelmingly more stable as a group than the representitive home situation of others their age. People obsessed with "cultural correctness" issues among the internationally adopted can take heart---its not a problem. May I humbly suggest that you turn instead, to a social issue which moves you so much that you roll up your sleeves and actually do something about it? --Kim |
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Rent an Apartment in Shanghai Hi Looking for apartment in the Shanghai area as Hengshan Lu or Nanjing Xi Lu some place where i can go for drink after a hard day work. Will be working in Shanghai within 3 month staying for a few yr. looking for a 1-2 bed room kitchen bathroom, living room 80sq+ might also need a car par (if none that alright) hoping to spend about $600-700USD you can contact me Kim_h@iinet.com.au Kim is my name from Australia |
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Flight to Shanghai: A Journey in the Plague Year May be I would have canceled my trip to Shingai but now I am quite relax and won't hesitate to go for it any way. |
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Cold Winter Comes Hi, I'm from Singapore and going to Shanghai this Christmas. Wish to have a white christmas there although I know it seldom snow in Shanghai............. |
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Moved to Zhang Jiang Hi there, My husband and I need to relocate in Shanghai in July due to my husband's job situation. We need to find an apartment (either buying or renting) and I need a job. Is Zhangjiang commutable place from downtown since my husband's office is in downtown? Also, please give me any advice how to get a job in Shanghai. I am an AICPA with MBA degree and have 10 plus years of work experience. |
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Shanghai Hotel Guide I am going to Shanghai for 5 nights in June -its my first visit. Can you please tell me should I book the hotel before I leave for Shanghai or can I book hotel at the airport? Also,I would like to visit places like Suzhou and Hangzhou-is there any tour I can join? Can I join the tour in Shanghai or do I need to book now before I go ? Thanks for your help |
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Hero of Zhang Yi Mou hi all, I'm really want to enjoy again this film Raise of the Red Lantern of Zhang Yi Mou director. May you show me the address for this. Pls email me at uyenkim1976@yahoo.com. Thanks a lots Kim |
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EndAds and BlockMessenger I tried the instructions posted on your site for the elimination of messenger spam. It worked once before but I got the latest worm and had to re-install everything on my computer. I tried to block the messenger spam agin but I still get the annoying things. Why is it different now? (Windows XP ) |
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My Home Goes Wireless Hi, Jian Shuo, First, I would need to subscribe to China Telecom for the ADSL. Do they provide the modem with the subscription or is it purchased separately. What type/brand should I buy? Re wireless, what are the equipment for the broadband I should have to look into. Should I buy in Singapore or in Shanghai? In fact I am now in Singapore. Wonder if those in Singapore is compatible with those in Shanghai? Frankly, this is my first time into broadband and adsl. Thanks in advance for your expert advice. Kim |
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My Home Goes Wireless Hi, Thank you for your generous contribution on your website to assist/help expatriates. I am a Singaporean in the finance profession working in Shanghai and currently staying at the Company hostel in Shanghai. Need more information. On broadband and adsl. Please clarify whether you are currently subscribed to Great Wall or China Telecom ADSL? and which is better?. Wonder if I can apply under residential rates but using the Company registered telephone lines (for the ADSL)? This is for my personal use. On your wireless connection at your home. Seems good. May adopt the same. Need your expert advise on the equipment etc. Thanks Kim |
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How do you Feel if Being Misunderstood? Can be found @ www.spamhaus.org/sbl/listings.lasso?isp=china+.+gwbn.net.cn |
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How do you Feel if Being Misunderstood? Hi, again Sorry to read the above about the spam. However, given your information on the "great wall" earier. I found that www.gwbn.net.cn is listed as one the the spam sources. About 14 IP addresses belonging to great wall. Check it out. That may be the reason for your anguish. Best regards Kim |
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Thanks for your Comments Thes pop ups are driving me crazy..But my problem is that I use my messenger service quite often to talk to my family...Anything else I can do to get back at them????? |
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Webcam Set Up, Broadcasting Shanghai Hi. I'm using windows XP and when I look at that page, I don't even see the viewer, let alone the street. Just the text, and the rest of the page is blank. I really like the rest of the site though. Thanks, Kim |